Men vs Women? or Local Men vs Local Women?
Read an article from a magazine about women’s thoughts on "Does Caucasian Men Make Better Boyfriends?" The poll = unknown.
I was in deep thoughts about this article while observing the people in the same train with me when I was on my way home. Why do local women think that local men are unromantic, too traditional, too possessive, too lazy, love playing the blaming game, etc and why does local men thinks that local females are high maintenance, too independent, too demanding, hard to understand what females want, changes mind like the weather all the time, etc (based on all the past & current survey). Is that all true? As a local female, I would say yes and no to all the above about men and females and not based on where they are from. Most men and females are not in the same frequency most of the time, as they do not like to speak their mind directly for fearing the other party would be angry or make a big fuss out of nothing. BUT if just focusing only on the locals, I would say (based on my observations on what I heard & see):
IF the local women are willing to STOP giving men hints about what they want/to do, stop pretending to be what they are not, stop expecting too much of a man, stop raking up the past, stop being so timid, stop making fuss/crying over something small, stop lying to themselves, stop throwing tantrums, stop talking so much and not listen, not to take things too far, stop being so negative about things, not to dream too much, and START to be themselves, being contented with what they have on hand rather than sulking over what they don’t have and maybe they should start to think rationally over things which are about to happen/surfaced and lastly start treating a man right, wouldn’t it be great?
vice versa
IF the local men, stop thinking about themselves too much, stop bragging, stop their empty promises, stop taking things too lightly, stop taking things for granted, stop forgetting the females existence, stop being so sour, stop trying to be MCP, stop trying to act macho, stop trying to please women for the sake of trying, stop hiding away from problems, and START to be a little more sensitive towards situation, listen to what female got to say for once and be rational about things, maybe be a little more romantic in the relationship (that wouldn’t make a man a whimp!) and stop hiding but observed on how things are going between two parties, start thinking on sharing/doing/learning something new together and lastly start making a woman feel special, wouldn’t it be great?
It is always the communication break down which causes problem to surface. And by separating the races and pointing out their good points and stepping on the other’s downside, what good would that be to anybody? As referring to the article, some females said that caucasian men falls into the category of what they want and not the local men. Excuse me, what about men from other countries? Aren’t they are men too? Have they forgotten about them? My colleague and I had a discussion about this during our small "outing" and she said," I believe it’s all about the character. Not about the race." That I would raise my hands and legs to agree. Look at those happy marriage of local/cross-races/foreign men & females (for 10 over years), aren’t they are the best proof? Why must we separate the issues into many pieces? Men from anywhere are still men, think like men, do things like men and women from anywhere are still women, think like women, behave like women. The only differences which I can point out are the different upbringing and the influence from the environment/people they meet.
Another point which I would like to point out from the article, some local females picked caucasian men as "Flings". Yes & no, in my own opinion. It takes two hands to clap for things to happened. Mind you, local females do go for local men for "Flings" too. I would say, not all caucasian men (based on the pool of caucasian men I know) would accept fling as part of their life, even though casual sex may developed in certain circumstances and that I prefer not to speak too much of. BUT THEN AGAIN, how many local men don’t do casual sex? I am not surprised that there are many local men out there having casual sex as I type now. So as I mentioned on the above, whatever colour the men/women is, they are still what they are. Nothing more, nothing less.
I think such polls should come to an end, what’s so biggy deal about the differences between "colours" & relationship?
